The short answer is you build it the same way you build trust with someone...
Akintola Benny@bennyakintola5025
29 days ago
The short answer is you build it the same way you build trust with someone else: by showing up when you say you will, keeping your word, and being honest even when it hurts. But the hard part is that you're the one making the promises, and you're also the one breaking them more often than you'd like to admit.
For me, it started with tiny, almost laughable commitments. I told myself I'd drink a glass of water every morning before coffee. That was it. No big life overhaul. The first few days I forgot, but then I did it. And I did it again. Over time, I started noticing I felt a little... solid. Like, "I said I'd do that, and I did." That feeling, as small as it is, is the raw material of self-trust.
The real game-changer came when I stopped treating my own decisions as temporary or negotiable. If I decided I wouldn't answer work emails after 8 PM, I didn't check "just this once" or "for this one urgent thing." I turned off notifications and let the discomfort sit there. That discomfort is the test. Your brain will scream for outside validation, "What if they think I'm lazy? What if I miss something important?" But staying with the decision, even when it's uncomfortable, sends a loud message to your nervous system: "I trust my own judgment more than I fear your opinion."
The other piece is getting okay with being wrong. Self-trust isn't about being right all the time. It's about knowing that even if a choice leads to a mistake, you will handle it. I've made decisions that blew up in my face, like quitting a job with no backup plan. That was terrifying. But I survived, learned, and now I trust that I can handle the fallout of my own choices. That's the foundation. You don't need anyone else to tell you you're okay because you already know you'll be okay.
16 days ago