CURIOUS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE?Just out
Whyte Queen@WhyteQueen
8 years ago
CURIOUS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE?Just out of curiosity, I signed up for an astrological reading. Yes I absolutely did. I’ll let you on a secret — it’s the most crazy thing I ever did. Being an ardent and a believing Christian, it’s something I ought not to have done; something I still regret. I visited Mary — the Astrologer.After a few weeks, I received a message that said my reading was ready. I couldn't wait, I was nervous. I opened the linked and what I saw, I would say shattered me even up to this instant.In the first email/reading, she emphasized how I was going to meet the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh. I was like though I wasn't ready — no accomplishments, no plans, emotionally unmatured, what the heck! I waited nothing happened.She sent another mail of how my neptune met with something - I can’t remember any of those balderdash and how they were going to bring goodluck. Although she was right about some thing, there was a great deal I didn’t agree with. For example, she said this year 2017 was a lucky one for me and that most of the rest of my years would be gloomy. This kept my mind preoccupied for weeks. I was scared and almost lost faith in my Christian faith. Yeah I know she meant well, but I couldn’t take it. All my dreams and aspiration seemed to melt before my very eyes; I felt my whole world crumble.It wasn’t until I told myself I was the one to make or mar myself did I get out of that state of confusion and helplessness. It really got me wondering just how many people have allowed people to define their lives and what they ought to be. Because someone says you’re wicked, you start acting like one or someone says nothing good can come out of you, you seriously and unconsciously dwell on it that it slowly becomes truth. Do not let people define your life, write your own script. Not even people in your household or environment should prevent you from achieving what you want.My mom was a wise woman. Anytime I get into a dilemma, her words were there to pull me through. I remember one she told me “Don’t tell people your dreams, just show them”. You know at first, I just couldn’t understand but i’ve come to know when you brag or share your dreams, you become exposed; to evil, jealousy, hurt and betrayal. My mom was this person who never announced her plans, you just see it being fulfilled and then you begin to wonder how long she had been planning it. This helps you get less enemies and less hurdles. In Nigeria here, where black magic is practiced, you don’t tell a friend, relative or neighbour of a great plan, because if such person practices black magic, they can tie your destiny or even padlock it and throw away the keys. You’ll find that nothing such person does ever work out and then you’re left with retracing your steps to know where and how you’ve gone wrong when you ought to have arrived your destination a long time ago; then a journey of 40 days becomes 40 years.Many people will always say “Can anything good come out of this one?” Instead of folding your tails inside like the dog you are not, why don’t you stand and roar “I REFUSE TO BELIEVE THIS” like the lion you were meant to be. My mom had taught me never to look down on anybody, not even the poorest of church rats or those with torn, worn off clothes. I have never looked down on anybody rather I rejoice over their success because I am convinced soon enough, I’ll be the celebrant.You want to climb up the ladders of accomplishment and success, never look down on anybody, because you never know when they’ll climb higher than you or be the ones to lift you when you are about to fall. When you rejoice over the happiness of others, how can joy lack in yours?Now the fact that I’m writing this shows a great deal of how I’ve conquered my fears. You share the same fears? Then do these: Share your Fears with Someone you Know can Help Out: You’ve encouraged yourself and you don’t seem to still have hope? Then it’s time for a Plan B. Tell it to someone you know can help, not someone that will complicate issues all the more. This can be a friend, doctor, parent, sister, absolutely anybody. Advice Yourself Once Again: The best advice as I always say is the one given to oneself. Even after a series of advice and lectures, you still have to talk to yourself. Remind yourself you were never born a failure, you were not born to suffer, you were not born to be a show piece, you were not born to be useless. Tell yourself “I AM A SUCCESS”, “I REFUSE TO BE A FAILURE”. Then convince yourself you’re not. Don’t start counting the past failures, rather focus on the bright future ahead of your; remember “Life is an Empty Page, you’re left to fill it up with whatever you feel like”. It’s a choice! So choose wisely. Never Look down on Yourself: Stop projecting your own downfall or failure. Never ask yourself if anything good can come out of you. Remember it’s your life; it doesn’t belong to me or anybody. Don’t make yourself feel lesser than you are. Teach your spirit to elevate itself. Don’t be the Lily among Thorns: Surrounding yourself with positive people, people who add value to your life is very important. The popular adage says it all “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you’re”. You should be able to know yourself, know your strengths and weaknesses. If you know you can add value or change such people’s live, then don’t be found around them. Bad habits are easy to pick up but are difficult to let go. Don’t be around people that makes you feel like you’re nothing. Don’t be found among people that makes you feel unhappy, not especially when you have a choice. Don’t be found among people who are useless to themselves and the society, smokers, drunkards, thieves or prostitutes. Surround yourself with people who are better and are able to impact your life positively, men with ideas and values. Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Which one would you rather be found with? Your call, your choice! Never Compare Yourself to Others: Comparing yourself to others is likened to a person running around in circles, no destination! no commitments. Always remember my path is different from yours and we do not have the same destinations. Comparison is absolutely unhealthy and uncalled for. Comparison makes you feel minute and you bother yourself for nothing. “Look at him man, he’s living the life!” who told you so? Do you know what such person would give to be just like you? I remember a story told of a little boy who informed an old stinkingly rich man of how he wished to be like him when he grows up. You know the usual reply might be an ‘amen’ or ‘I hope so’ but this old man said “Son, if you knew what I had to go through; how many children I’ve lost and how I’ve suffered, you wouldn’t want that. I want you to be better than I am”. This reply changes the life of this young lad forever and of course his mentality. Being yourself and carving an image worthy of emulation for yourself is the best. What makes most artiste unique and different? They don’t do what others do! They are their selves. Nigeria’s Northern Singer — Zacky always carries a torch, Lagbaja always wear a mask. Or famous writers and so on, they never chased someone else’s dreams, they followed theirs that’s why they are distinct and different. ALWAYS DARE TO BE DIFFERENT.