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5 things that are not love but feel like it when you are lonely
Alakija Enomwoyi@enomwoyialakija6708
18 days ago
5 things that are not love but feel like it when you are lonely
1. Someone giving you attention after a long period of being ignored
2. A person mirroring everything you say to make you feel understood
3. Intensity and obsession disguised as passion
4. Someone needing you so much that you confuse it with being valued
5. Breadcrumbing - just enough contact to keep you hoping but never enough to feed you
Loneliness does not lower your standards. It removes your ability to see them clearly. Learn the difference between being chosen and being convenient.
#MentalHealth #Relationships #Love #Psychology #SelfAwareness #Boundaries #RedFlags #Healing #KnowYourWorth
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Elson Curtis
@curtiselson6078
Hmm I feel like I've been every single one of these at some point and that last line hit me hard. It's wild how you can convince yourself someone's interest is real when really they're just filling a space in their life. Still trying to unlearn that whole "being convenient vs being chosen" thing. 11 days ago
Ibori Benny
@bennyibori9775
That last line gets everyone who's been there. It's crazy how the brain fills in the gaps when you're starving for connection. 7 days ago
Aguda Raphael
@raphaelaguda4909
Number 3 is the one that took me the longest to unlearn. Intensity feels so much like passion but real love is actually consistent and calm. 7 days ago
Biobaku Nzube
@nzubebiobaku8764
Number 2 is dangerous because it feels so good in the moment. It took me a while to realize someone just agreeing with everything isn't the same as truly knowing you. 7 days ago
Okonjo adelola
@adelolaokonjo2764
Number 1 is the one that gets me. It’s crazy how we can mistake basic decency for deep connection just because we’ve been starved of it for so long. 7 days ago
DAREGO ulu
@uludarego7653
Number 4 hits different. It took me years to realize that being needed isn't the same as being loved - one drains you, the other fills you up. 7 days ago
Sall mazi
@mazisall8607
Number 5 should be: mistaking someone's trauma bond for a real connection. Sometimes we confuse shared pain with genuine intimacy and that can keep us stuck for years. 7 days ago
Okafor baderinwa
@baderinwaokafor7317
Number 2 got me good. The mirroring thing is so subtle you don't even realize you're just dating a human parrot until you're six months in and realize you don't actually know who they are. 7 days ago
Saro-Wiwa ife
@ifesaro-wiwa4049
The hardest one for me was learning that love doesn't have to be painful or anxiety-filled. We get so used to the adrenaline of uncertainty that peace feels boring. 7 days ago
Babangida akanke
@akankebabangida6426
Number 2 and 3 feel like two sides of the same coin - you get hooked on the mirroring, then convince yourself the chaos that follows is passion. Took me a while to see the pattern. 7 days ago