Marvin Omosemen Benson
@marvinomosemenbenson472030
1 year ago
RELATIONSHIP TIPS.
1. When it comes to love, showing it is more important than mere telling. Love should be a SHOW-AND-TELL STORY. You love me? Show it, don't just tell it! And one of the best ways to show love is not the giving of gifts, but the giving of self, creating time for one another, being deeply concerned about the well being of one's partner.
2. If, as a lady, the only room you know in his house is his bedroom, then, for sure, you are a bedbug. Every man knows the difference between a sex toy and true joy. If just after one week, he knows all the nooks and crannies of your body, my sister, you need serious deliverance. Every man, deep inside him, wants an angel, even though he might not refuse a "presenter" when he finds one.
3. Relationship is like a car. Because you have a flat tyre does not mean you should change the whole car. It means you should fix the tyre. In a relationship, when you decide not to intentionally and skillfully work on what you have or you ignore the obvious cracks, then it becomes easy for you to "change" the relationship, going from one lover to another. Sometimes, what makes relationships not to work is because the lovers decide not to work on the relationship.
4. The word, ROMANCE, has MAN in it, not woman. Thus, it's more of the man's duty to be romantic, to delicately and affectionately carry the woman, as God's command of love rests on the man's shoulder. However, women should not expect too much because the word ROMANCE still has ROMAN (from the word ROME) in it, and as we all know and say, Rome was not built in a day! Mutual love and companionship is a matter of time.
5 Some things are not worth it- they are simply EMPTY. If you take away the first letter in EMPTY, it will still be pronounced same. If you take away the last letter, it will still be pronounced same. If you take away the first, third and last letters, it will still be MT! And even if you remove all the letters it will still be empty. In the same way, there are some people that can never change, no matter what you do or don't do because they lack the needed attribute for change. The truth is that a relationship that won't work is obvious from the outset, but we often take the path of denial, probably out of desperation or based on what we are to "gain" from such relationships. Thus, we lie to ourselves, hoping the other person will, with time, "change" for us. Well, that's what I call "Seeing fire and jumping into it.." When it comes to relationship, there are two types: A relationship that has potential and one that has disaster. And the partners know when they encounter each type of relationship.
6. Now, look at the word: QUEUE. If you take away the last four letters from this word, it would still be pronounced Q! It means that the U and E are just queuing after each other but have no usefulness! Same way, there are some people and relationships in your life that take up all the space in your life but they don't have any reason to be in your life in the first place because they add no value to you. There should come a time in your life when you need to decide who has the right to stay in your life and who doesn't. The truth is that most people (especially ladies) prefer to be in an "unrelatable relationship" than being "single and happy." My sister, having a boyfriend is not an achievement. My brother, having a girlfriend is not a trophy. Don't be like a STICK INSECT that attaches itself to mostly dead twigs and wood. If you are not growing in the "relationship", or respect has been completely lost, my sister, my brother, read the sign and move instead of enduring the sighs.
6. It is not advisable to jump into another relationship immediately after breaking a previous one, or else you will carry the baggage and leftovers from the previous one into a new one. My bro, my sister, relationship is not a house, where you just move out and move in. You need time to heal, to reset your priorities, to grow.
7. A woman is a course all men fail, no matter how long they've been at the University of Relationship! So, for guys, don't be discouraged if you do not fully know your woman, because even your great grandfather, Adam, did not fully know his woman, Eve, but still it was only death that separated them. Just follow your woman as you see her, understanding and celebrating her perplexing uniqueness.
8. Stormy RelationSHIPS provide us with three options: We could choose to:
Walk away
Cry away
Sail away
Note: Stormy relationships are different from dummy relationships. A stormy relationship is one that is tested while a dummy relationship is time that is wasted.
All three options above are valid, depending on the mapped out destination of the sailors. Is their vayage distant or near?
9. Some relationships are simply industries of sympathies. If you are always sad in a courting relationship, then what are you still doing there? Though relationships aren't meant to always be sweet, they aren't meant to always be bitter, either. Must your relationship be turned to Nollywood's crying scenes?
10. If you desire a long term relationship, then work on your short temper. Your temper is the temple where your relationship is either sacrificed or sanctified. Communication is an integral part of relationships, and whether you agree or not, there are times when communication isn't "sweet." At such times, what is needed is self control. You don't need to always blow your fuse because you are still the one that would still end up enduring the long or short term darkness. And when it comes to communication, the sexes differ. A woman would always prefer to say everything in her heart, no matter how it makes her man feel. A man prefers to bottle up his emotions, which, I think, is worse than that of a woman's. So, if a woman wants to bring the roof down, as a man, don't help her. If a man wants to bottle up his emotions and explode later, as a woman, don't allow him. Instead, learn to talk with him, rather than shout at/with him.
11. Lastly, when it comes to love,
chemistry won't be there
If both of you
are solvents. Both of you don't need to be "same" for the relationship to work. In fact, relationship is the celebration of individual differences instead of tolerated sameness.
Pst Marvin Omosemen
